They always say that you need to bounce back from any kind of adversity as quickly as possible, but just saying something like that does not make actually doing it easy. When you have gone through a divorce, it might seem pretty difficult to start dating again. This is especially true if you were married for quite some time, or if the divorce was really nasty or tough on you. If you are having a hard time dating after divorce, then you may want to take a look at what it might be that is holding you back.
What’s holding you back?
For a lot of men, it’s the fear of being hurt again. You may have trusted your ex wife like no other woman before her, and now that the marriage is over, you are afraid that the next woman is just going to do the same thing or that the next relationship will end up the same way. If that is the case, then it is understandable why you might be a little hesitant to get back out there and see what dating has to offer.
You have to really be able to get over the hurt that your ex wife or the divorce may have caused you before you can expect to really have an easy time with it. If you don’t get rid of that hurt, then there is a good chance that you will be sending out a vibe that women can pick up on that you are not really ready to be dating again. Or, if you do get the chance to start up a new relationship, there is a good chance that you will end up sabotaging it in some way.
It’s also pretty common for a man who is coming out of a divorce to feel inexperienced when it comes to dating. It does not matter if you had a lot of experience before you got married, it can still feel like you are brand new to dating when you have been married for quite some time. If this is the case, then you just need to realize that you are probably going to have some ups and some downs before it becomes natural for you to date again.
You might also want to learn some new techniques or attraction skills to help you out so that you stand a much better chance of attracting women to you. Learning things like how to approach a woman, how to get her to give you her number, and how to escalate things so that they go beyond just flirting can all help you gain some experience and just as importantly… confidence so that you can go out and meet women and have a good time with it.
It’s not easy to start dating after divorce but with the right techniques, you can make it a LOT easier on yourself.